Last week’s article started this conversation which is really about managing our lives and constant change. 

This story about being “always connected” continues and will continue as we seek to find and maintain balance, effectiveness, and ourselves. 

Last week’s post led me to re-connect with an “old friend”; yes, of course by e-mail, at first, but in the fight for a more personal connection we agreed to schedule an ancient experience – voice to voice. Here is part of what my friend, Allison wrote…

Hi Steve,

Today was my daughter’s first day of kindergarten. My alarm (on my iPhone) went off at 6 A.M. I was tired and didn’t want to get up, hit the snooze and checked my email. I then proceeded to scan approximately a dozen emails that came in my inbox since 10:00 P.M. last night when I checked it last.  I then began reading your article on over-connectedness and started laughing to myself at the irony of reading this while lying in bed!

Now I’m thinking through your question: “What fear drives this need to be connected 24/7?”

Is it my fear of “not being connected“?

Or, to look at it another way, in my mind about one in seven emails will bring a reward of sorts.

Checking your inbox brings you a sense of being connected when you receive a note from a close friend or an email from an old acquaintance you haven’t heard from in a long time. It’s always fun to open your email and get a good referral or business lead isn’t it? Better yet, it’s exciting to get that email that confirms that the business deal you’ve been working on for several months is a done deal!

Maybe I’m just looking for a “good feeling” or affirmation.

Our family just returned from a week’s vacation in Jackson Hole, Wyoming. We didn’t take computers but Bob and I both brought our iPhones. We kept our “smart phone connecting” to a minimum, I think?

I appreciate Allison’s thoughts regarding what can drive this drive to be constantly connected: 1) Reward and 2) Affirmation.  What are you looking for?

Dr Pepper e-Mail Management Plan

After reading my post last week I set out to examine and adjust my compulsive commitment to “over-connectedness”.  Here are my first steps:

Step 1: I turned off 2 of the 4 email accounts coming to my iPhone

Step 2: Explored my “Dr Pepper E-mail Management Plan”.  If you’re not familiar with Dr Pepper’s marketing strategy here is the article Roger Grace wrote in the Metropolitan News-Enterprise, a Los Angles daily paper about Dr Pepper…  

It was in the 1920s that Dr. Walter Eddy at Columbia University studied the body’s metabolism. He discovered that a natural drop in energy occurs about 10:30 a.m., 2:30 p.m. and 4:30 p.m.  But he also discovered that if the people in his research study had something to eat or drink at 10, 2 and 4, the energy slump could be avoided.

After Dr. Eddy’s research findings were released, Dr Pepper challenged its advertising agency to come up with a theme which would suggest that Dr Pepper should be that 10, 2 and 4 drink which would keep the energy level up. The result was one of the most enduring of Dr Pepper’s advertising themes: Drink a bite to eat at 10, 2 and 4.

The Dr. Pepper Company pushed the notion that ingestion of sugar at 10, 2 and 4 was actually something healthful. And, of course, parents would want their children to engage in healthful practices. 

In these days when there’s a push to rid school cafeterias and vending machines of sugar-based products and those high in carbohydrates (which turn into sugar), it’s hard to imagine an ad like the one  appearing in the Sept. 23, 1930 edition of the Port Arthur (Texas) News. It was headed, “One Healthful form of Necessary Nourishment that kids need no coaxing to drink,” and said:

“Little ‘Human dynamos’ run out of ‘juice’ between meals. That’s why they tease for sweets. Sugar is the quickest energy food and Mother Nature knows it. She prompts the appetite. It’s as natural as hunger can be.”

If your kiddies crave sugar, give them as much as they want…but in a form that can’t be abused. Dr. Pepper contains fruit juice for flavor and health…pure sugar for quick-energy supply…and sparkling water for bulk and thirst. No tax on digestion. No ingredients that can possibly harm. The small proportions of sugar to water is a safety-valve against excess.”

How would this “craving” for email be satisfied with 10/2/ 4? Right, not so well; so I thought about adapting it to 8/10/12/2/4/6/8…of course, that left out first thing in the morning and last thing at night!  Seriously? 

“Craving”, what an interesting word to associate with this subject…a strong desire for something.  What do you crave that email seems to supply? Imagine losing your “smart phone”, how would you respond?  Why?

Yes, I’m still working to define an adequate schedule for checking email.

Step 3: I turned off the “you’ve got mail” alert (on my iPhone)

Yes, I recognize these are but a beginning.

The real question: How much space do you have in your life?

As an executive coach I work with people with a lot on their plate. Intensity shows up. Little or no margin in the schedule; not much time left for personal development.

We talk about “Creating Space”; the disciplined use of time, place, and resources to reflect on the story for truth. 

How do you create space in your daily routine?

Reflection allows you to examine your life, your thinking, your performance.  To give careful thought to your behavior and performance.  Creating space allows you to examine the path you are taking and make adjustments in line with your purpose, passion, and values.

Measure your life, it just does not have room for so much.                                                                                                - Seneca

What would be the benefit to you if you create space in your life?

What happens if we fail to create space?

This “Creating Space” for consistent reflection is the secret to personal growth.

The best predictor of sustainable success is the ability and willingness to learn and change achieved through consistent reflection on the story for truth.

-Steve Laswell

A failure to create space leaves us stuck in life.  Performance suffers, next level success is sacrificed.  Your experience of life lived with purpose and passion while making a difference in the world will be limited.  Your health, mental, emotional, and spiritual well being, your relationships will suffer unless you give yourself this gift of consistent reflection.

Allison closed her email by writing…

I don’t think I’ve really said anything here significant. I’m pondering all of this because I find this phenomenon extremely interesting, as if we’re witnessing something that has never happened before in our lifetime.

Does this sound dramatic? Maybe so, but I see it stealing away our relationships to some degree. It’s the great paradox. Everyone thinks they are “more connected” with computers and smart phones. Texting and Facebook keep us all in touch with more people. Could more be less? Less faces, more aloneness.

Now I will stop. I’m beginning to sound like Steve Laswell.

How are you managing your technological connections? 

What do you think?

For further reading: some other interesting articles if you want dig deeper:

• Wall Street Journal book review of Hamlet’s BlackBerry -“To Tweet or Not to Tweet”
• Scientists are studying this; check out The New York Times, Your Brain and Computers: “Outdoors and Out of Reach, Studying the Brain”   

It was a primitive trip with a sophisticated goal: to understand how heavy use of digital devices and other technology changes how we think and behave, and how a retreat into nature might reverse those effects.

• Regarding multitasking ““First Steps to Digital Detox” posted on The New York Times – Room for Debate blog

New research is showing that such immersion can cause multitaskers to have more fractured thinking and trouble shutting out irrelevant information, and that even when they are offline, those problems persist. A lot of Americans feel stress from juggling too much incoming information, but have to be online for work.

What are some strategies for unplugging from the demand of digital devices? Is there such a thing as too much multitasking?

Again, please comment below; I’d love to hear from you.

Last week I re-connected with a former employee, she ran a few minutes late for our 7:05 a.m. breakfast appointment.  It was fine, as I waited outside the restaurant enjoying a 68 degree late summer morning.

Upon arrival, she apologized and explained why she didn’t call…her phone is MIA; not really lost, just not coming out of hiding.  Apparently the battery is drained so forget the prompt suggestion, “Just call your phone.”

Of course, it’s not really a phone; it is a “Smart Phone”…an intelligent device…fashionable. 

Yes, I have one.  Yes, the iPhone 4. 

Yes, it’s for my business.

My journey to hyper-connectedness started with my Blackberry (model 6230 is an “antique” by today’s advanced technology standards; good grief, its all of 6-7 years old).  

Yes, I’d heard the stories of people sleeping with their Blackberry and heard the “CrackBerry” jokes.  My boss, at the time was thrilled that our management team was going to be connected and responsive.

I can remember (am I starting to sound “old”?) when we would let the old “land line” ring when a call came in during dinner, “They’ll call back.”  Once upon a time it was considered rude to sit at the table with privacy curtain of a newspaper cutting you off from others.

Exchange of Information

Communication is about the exchange of information between people; it’s delivering a message whether spoken or written or through behavior.  I love helping people become better communicators, people connecting with people.

There is another meaning to communication having to do with “access”.  This is the opportunity to approach or connect to get information.  No breaking news here, information is available 24/7 which is giving some traditional delivery systems the challenge of their lifetime.

When is 24/7 access too much?

Tim Ferris provides some interesting stats on his blog, “Experiments in Lifestyle Design” around e-mail addiction and information overload. Consider,

66% of people read email seven days a week and expect to receive a response the same day

61% continue to check email while on vacation

56% have anxiety if they can’t access email

“CrackBerry” was the official winner of the 2006 Word-of-the-Year as selected by the editorial staff of Webster’s New World College Dictionary. Blackberry addiction has been labeled “similar to drugs” in a study performed by Rutgers University; millions of users are now able unable to go more than five minutes without checking e-mail.

According to online surveys of more than 4,000 people, conducted jointly by AOL and the Opinion Research Corporation and reported in 2005:

41% of Americans check e-mail first thing in the morning

• 18% check e-mail right after dinner
• 14% check e-mail right when they get home from work
• 14% check e-mail right before they go to bed
• 40% have checked their e-mail in the middle of the night

More than one in four (26%) say they can’t go more than two to three days without checking email, and they check it everywhere:

• In bed – 23%
• In class – 12%
• In business meetings – 8%
• At the beach or pool – 6%
• In the bathroom – 4%
• While driving – 4%

So, how you doing…where does your behavior fit in?

The new “overtime”?

A recent article in the Chicago Sun-Times tells about a Police Sergeant suing for compensation due to his off-duty time spent working on his Blackberry.

Sgt. Jeffrey Allen’s job had him on an electronic leash of sorts.

Even when he was off duty, Allen says, he performed work on his department-issued BlackBerry. Now he wants to get paid for the off-duty time he spent on the device.

Allen has sued the city in federal court, seeking overtime pay for up to two years. His lawsuit, filed earlier this year, seeks OT for similarly situated officers, too.

“Over a period of years, I am confident there are hundreds of hours,” said Paul Geiger, one of his attorneys.

Allen was issued a BlackBerry while he was in the gang-investigations unit. “These guys, regardless of rank, are spending in some cases hours on the phone dealing with search-warrant issues and calls from supervisors about cases — and they’re working when it’s not their tour of duty,” Geiger said.

“We have reached a point in society where it’s very easy to get a whole lot of unpaid work from employees just by the use of these devices,” Geiger said. “I want people to get paid for the work they do.”

Who’s been sleepin’ in my bed?

The Pew Research Center is a nonpartisan “fact tank” that provides information on the issues, attitudes and trends shaping America and the world by conducting public opinion polling and social science research.  

Their recent report on Millennials provides interesting information on cell phone use. The line between work life and personal life is being blurred with each generation, with each new device. Millennials are being called the first “always-connected” generation in history. According to the report:

Millennials are more likely than older Americans to treat their cell phones as a necessary and important appendage. Many even bring their cell phones to bed. A majority (57%) of the public has placed their cell phone on or right next to their bed while sleeping. (Page 39)

What’s the price of “always connected”?

In 1992, the United Nations declared stress the “20th Century epidemic.”

In our fast-paced society, where information overload is common place and each day involves hundreds of decisions and interruptions, stress finds a fertile field. Perhaps nowhere is the rise in stress more real than your workplace.

An article on Bank of America’s Small Business website suggests,

Stress-induced health issues, absenteeism, employee turnover, and lower productivity cost our economy an estimated $300 million a year. On average, according to data from the Center for Economic and Policy Research, adults in the United States work longer hours and take less vacation than workers in any other industrialized nation. Perhaps then, it’s no surprise that a recent study of 2,500 American workers by CareerBuilder.com found that more than three out of four-77 percent-feel overworked and burned-out at their jobs.

What is the cost in your life of being “always connected”?

What are we afraid of?

One of my coaching exercises “Next Level Journey” delivers this powerful truth about what hinders sustained success.  The limitations become a box of sorts which is… 

Ancient behavior that hinders future success due to fear-based emotions.

Work that backwards and we see how ”fear” drives old behaviors, which hinder performance and success.

Here’s the question: What fear drives this need to be connected 24/7?

Leaving breakfast, my friend suggested she may not replace her “Smart Phone” opting out for “just a cell phone”.  Why? She’s enjoying the freedom.

What do you think?  How do you manage the expectation to be connected 24/7?

Please comment…I’d love to hear from you.

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Intensity happens.

Here in Oklahoma, this summer’s heat is intense.  In fact the National Weather Service adjusted the end of a current “excessive heat warning” another day.  It is considered “hazardous weather” because temperatures are expected to reach 100 to 105 degrees over the weekend.  The heat index values will be in the 105 to 115 range.  That’s intense!

What happens when the heat index is this intense?

• People try to escape from it
• People tend to feel exhausted
• More effort is required to stay engaged
• Systems are pressed to their limit; air conditioning and dehydration come to mind…

The National Weather Service reminds us excessive heat is dangerous,

“The combination of hot temperatures and high humidity will combine to create a dangerous situation in which heat illnesses are possible.”

When something or someone is intense, it is an indication of an extreme degree of something…like the temperature, but of course I’m thinking about people. 

Intensity often shows up as a strength overextended, the use of force or authority, that raw emotion on display; unproductive behaviors.

Intensity happens. 

For most of us, “being intense” happens sooner or later; for some it’s right now, not later.  Which best describes you?

When does intensity happen in your work and life?

Intensity, as an unproductive behavior, often shows up when

• Expectations are not met
• Cooperation is not received
• One’s control feels threatened
• Emotion-based fear sits in the driver’s seat

One of my recent clients began their coaching engagement with “off the chart” intensity.  As we examine the story, his on-boarding was poorly managed with unrealistic expectations.  His up line manager’s behavior was driven by personal success and advancement, too.

Combine all the details with his core motive “to be right” and what happens?  Unregulated behavior (intensity) designed to say, “I’ll show you; I’ll prove I can do this job!”  This created success-limiting behavior. 

Misery accompanies “off the chart intensity” (like a hot summer day) and you know what misery likes, right? Yes, company.

Could that be “career-limiting intensity”?

Perhaps you heard about the JetBlue airline attendant, Steven Slater and his intense, on-the-job demonstration.  As the story goes, Slater reached his breaking point with an alleged passenger situation; he grabbed a beer, popped open the emergency exit door, took a ride down the inflatable slide, and ran across the tarmac to his car in employee parking.  Could that be “career-limiting”?

What’s interesting to me is how this story seems to resonate with people in the workplace.  It seems to be the “fantasy story” for a frustrated, under-appreciated, and over loaded work force.

Sara Kagle, an 18 year airlines’ veteran writes in the Wall Street Journal about her experience in the crew room after the misnamed “jump to freedom” incident.

I headed to the airport on Monday having just heard about JetBlue flight attendant Steven Slater’s now famous jump to freedom. I expected a reaction, but not the phenomena that has followed. In the crew room, I could hear everyone sharing the news. The story was still unbelievable to me, and to everyone else. One fellow flight attendant didn’t believe me when I told her, another heard it and thought there must be more to the story — and, indeed, investigators are questioning the account.

But, mostly the reaction was the same: “I love this!” “Good for him!” “He’s my Hero!”

So, why do flight attendants feel this way? Do we really think that Steven Slater is a hero?

I’ll let you read her article for her take as this post is about the impact of intensity in your work.

How might you avoid an unfortunate, regrettable experience ignited by the demonstration of intense behavior? 

Three, no Four Simple Steps

Consider these simple actions as a place to begin to help manage your intense moments…

1. Breathe; a slow, cleansing, deep breath
2. Smile; (I know, it is counter intuitive, just try it and see)
3. Repeat, “I’m cool” (something is threatening your identity)
4. Reality Check: What’s true here? What’s my desired outcome?

Simple, not easy, especially during the intense moment. 

Consider this: What is the cost of intensity on your relationships, performance, health, and life?

My client emailed me after a couple of coaching sessions:

I have had a great couple of days.  I feel more confident and stronger than ever.  I also saw my level of intensity for the first time, kind of disappointing.    (Emphasis added)

Enjoy reflecting on these questions, if you wish:

1. How intense are you on a scale of 1 (low) to 6 (extremely)?
2. When are you the most intense?  Listen to your story…
3. How do you view your intensity, as a strength or weakness?
4. How do you think others experience you when you are intense?
5. How do you know that?

As for Mr. Slater

His unproductive behavior is allowing him to be charged with criminal mischief, reckless endangerment, and trespassing.  According to the WSJ, Slater

…has been cast as a working-class hero by some in the media and on the Internet for telling off rude passengers and then quitting in style.  His attorney said Slater…who pleaded not guilty to the charges, appreciates the support but isn’t enjoying the spotlight and only wants to return to aviation.

“This is a man who only cares about his industry, the airline industry,” Mr. Turman said. “He wants to thank JetBlue. It is a wonderful airline. Steven loves working for them and wishes to continue working for them.”

JetBlue has said that Mr. Slater has been suspended.

What is the impact of a “high intensity index” on others around you?  Much like the 105 degree temperatures people will…

• …try to escape from you
• …feel exhausted around you
• …invest more effort to stay engaged working with you
• …be pressed to their limit

Intensity has its price, so remember:

Breath…Smile…Repeat, “I’m cool.”

And, take that reality-check.

What do you think?  How do you combat “too intense” in today’s intense work place?

Please comment below; I’d love to hear from you.

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How well are you protecting your personal well being?  

Perhaps you saw “Jaws”, I didn’t but here’s the story line.  What subtle life messages do you hear in it?

Martin Brody is the police chief of Amity, an island resort town somewhere in New England. One summer morning, Brody is called to the beach, where the mangled body of a summer vacationer has washed ashore. The medical examiner tells the chief it could have been a shark that killed the swimmer.

The Mayor, who is desperate to keep the revenue from July 4th tourists wants Brody to say the young woman’s death was caused by a motorboat propeller instead of a shark…because the thought of a shark would drive tourists away from Amity. 

[Note to self…it looks like the mayor puts money ahead of people's lives.]

Shark expert Matt Hooper believes the female swimmer was killed by a shark. Hooper is proven right a few days later, when another person is killed.

Quint, the shark hunter offers to find the shark and kill it, but Police Chief Vaughn thinks his $10,000 professional service fee is too high.  Meanwhile, Mayor Vaughn leaves the beaches open; he still wants the summer revenue.

After another crazy experience the mayor agrees to hire Quint to find the shark.

Here is the dialog where Quint responds to the mayor’s challenge:  

Quint: Y’all know me. Know how I earn a livin’. I’ll catch this bird for you, but it ain’t gonna be easy. Bad fish. Not like going down the pond chasin’ bluegills and tommycods. This shark, swallow you whole. Little shakin’, little tenderizin’, an’ down you go.

And we gotta do it quick, that’ll bring back your tourists, put all your businesses on a payin’ basis. But it’s not gonna be pleasant. I value my neck a lot more than three thousand bucks, chief. I’ll find him for three, but I’ll catch him, and kill him, for ten.

But you’ve gotta make up your minds. If you want to stay alive, then ante up. If you want to play it cheap and be on welfare for the whole winter.

I don’t want no volunteers, I don’t want no mates, there’s just too many captains on this island. Ten thousand dollars for me by myself. For that you get the head, the tail, the whole damn thing.

When do you yell “Shark!”?

If you’ve heard me speak or read much of my stuff you know I’m about developing people. 

As The People Developer it is my heartfelt duty to proclaim this warning: “Business Eats People!” 

Business (your work) will take whatever you are willing to give it and still want more. It’s the nature of business to take, consume, produce…; take, consume, produce…; take, consume, produce.  This is how business functions – not good or bad, right or wrong…just how it is.

Knowing this to be true, I hope you work at a business that values people (you). 

You see, I believe the business of business is people. 

When a business takes care of its people, the people will take care of the business.

When this is not the case, work will “…swallow you whole. Little shakin’, little tenderizin’, an’ down you go.”  Did I hear “Shark!”?

But what about OSHA?

This of course is the Occupational Safety and Health Administration of the United States.  According to Wikipedia, OSHA

…was created by Congress under the Occupational Safety and Health Act signed by President Richard M. Nixon, on December 29, 1970.  Its mission is to prevent work-related injuries, illnesses, and occupational fatality by issuing and enforcing standards for workplace safety and health.

As well intentioned and valuable as the mission of this agency may be OSHA is not there to protect your work-life balance. It will not encourage you to live out your values or make sure you are engaged in meaningful work or that you are doing work that you enjoy or that allows you to use your strengths. 

No one will do this OR can do this…except you.

The setting of boundaries, the negotiation of expectations, and making choices that lead to living life with purpose and passion while serving others is our personal responsibility. “The company” or “the boss” will not do it…not even when a business leader says “our most important asset is our people.”  Remember the nature of business is to eat people.  It is not right or wrong, it just is.  Whatever you are willing to sacrifice it will take.

This is not an attack on “big business” or business “in general” or “capitalism”.  No profit, no business, no provision.  It is about being aware of the sign on the beach. 

It is about embracing personal responsibility for your personal development which includes living well.

Have you experienced the affect of downsizing? 

The pressure to do more with less is on like never before!  More pressure, greater demands, and work will “…swallow you whole. Little shakin’, little tenderizin’, an’ down you go.”

How might you move forward…?

1. Pay attention to your story - What’s the message around hours worked, stress, your health, strain on your relationships? How well are you living out your values?
2. Be intentional – Where can you make an adjustment? What’s one thing you can do to “take back your life”?
3. Solicit support – Everyone needs an objective person to ask real questions and encourage the hard choices

There’s a man-eating creature out there.

How are you protecting your personal well being?  

 “The Best Predictor of Continued Success is the ability and willingness to learn and change achieved through consistent reflection on the Story.”

-Steve Laswell

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How are you accelerating your personal success?  

The Next Level Journey is about finding a path to maintain your personal success.  This article completes a 3-part series answering this important question: how do you accelerate success when the pace of life does not support the personal development?  

There’s no question about it, most of us are living a frantic lifestyle.

There is price to be paid for this pace.  It shows up in the decline of health, lack of direction, out-of-balance work-life, excessive stress, and relationship strain. 

Principle #1:

The way to accelerate personal growth is to slow life down.

Once you make begin to “slow life down”, you must choose to support your personal growth; this leads to principle two.

Principle #2:

Life requires consistent reflection to be productive

The pace of life stands in direct opposition to your practice of this success supporting discipline of consistent reflection. 

Let me repeat and encourage you to consider this statement:

“The Best Predictor of Continued Success is the ability and willingness to learn and change achieved through consistent reflection on your Story.”

                                                       -Steve Laswell

As you slow the pace down and engage your head and heart in consistent reflection on your story  (i.e. – feedback, experience, success, and failure) you position yourself for continued success.  

Now, Principle #3:

Creating space supports success in all of life.

Space includes both a period of time and a place to fit something in.  To create is to bring something into existence.  To create space means you make room in your schedule for an appointment with yourself with the goal to listen to your story, the events of your day, week, month, year…life.

What’s that you say?  You don’t have time.

Benno Schmidt, Jr. took over as president of Yale in 1986. I like what he said about creating space and leadership…

“If I can’t put my feet on the desk and look out the window and think without an agenda, I might be managing Yale, but I will not be leading it.”

Yale University Campus

Let’s just say, you are the president of Your Life.  Without time and place to give careful thought to the Story you may be “managing life”, but are you “leading it”? 

If you are not leading your life who or what is?

Creating space supports leadership development.  Truth, the facts or reality come to liberate us from limiting behaviors. Then, with improved performance comes better results . . . success happens. 

What goes into “creating space”?

1. Time
2. Place
3. Resources

What do I mean by “resources”?  It can be any of the following or a combination thereof:

• Asking yourself open-ended questions
• Reading daily in a helpful book
• Talking with an objective friend
• Using a certified coach
• Writing in your journal
• Practicing a deep breathing
• Sending a smile to your face
• Laughing out loud…fake it till you make it
• Silence – quiet the voices, turn off the gadgets
• Listen
• Your story…that meeting, conversation, decision, experience, feedback, success, and failure

Creating space – time & place for reflective thinking and writing allows you to reconsider previous actions, events, decisions, feedback, experience, success, or failure…the Story.

What is your reward for consistent reflection on the Story?

Freedom. Growth. Success in life. 

How much time do you have or want in your daily or weekly schedule for consistent reflection?

What’s doable?  It can be 5 or 10 minutes, it will make a difference.

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How are you accelerating your personal success?  

This week, I continue sharing from a recent group coaching session, “The Path of Continued Success”.

The fact that you are reading this indicates you are enjoying a level of success in life. 

In last week’s article I explored the pace of life these days.  There’s no question, most people are living a crazy, fast, ‘speed of light’ lifestyle. 

There is price to be paid for this pace.  It shows up in the decline of physical, mental, emotional, or spiritual health…lack of direction, an out-of-balance work-life, excessive stress or relationship strain.  Everything seems to happen faster, develop faster, change faster.

How do you accelerate personal growth? 

Growth indicates greater maturity and the associated ability to manage life; and the reward?  Greater peace, joy, happiness, fulfillment, engagement, and love along the journey.  Remember Principle #1 from last week:

The way to accelerate personal growth is to slow life down.

Once you take steps to “slow life down”, how do you accelerate success?

Here’s what the coaching group said;

• Learn from others
• Pay attention to your inner self
• Gain knowledge
• Seek out  and embrace opportunities for experience
• Listen and pay attention to surroundings
• Develop a hunger and dig
• Urgency + Accountability + Time
• Be a sponge
• Learn from those around me

Here is my soon to be famous quote,

“The Best Predictor of Continued Success is the ability and willingness to learn and change achieved through consistent reflection on the Story.” 

As you re-read it what do you notice, hear, or feel in that statement?  What do you think?

When you engage your head and heart in careful thought about your Story you will discover truth; truth will liberate you from limiting behaviors bringing growth; growth leads to improved performance and results; success happens. 

To summarize,

1. The way to accelerate personal growth is to slow life down
2. Life requires consistent reflection

Consistent reflection is the repeated task of giving careful thought to what’s going on in life…the story.  Creating time for reflective thinking and writing allows you to reconsider previous actions, events, decisions, feedback, experience, success, or failure…the story.

What is your reward from reflecting on the story?

Truth.  By that I simply mean that which is aligned with the facts or reality.  Only when you discover the truth, will you live in freedom. 

How does the old saying go?  If you tell the truth, you have nothing to fear…you are free.

Fear-based emotions trigger limiting behavior which undermine continued success.  Consistent reflection on the story brings truth and truth gives freedom as you take responsibility doing the right thing, for the right reasons.

When do you create time and place for reflection?  How consistent are you? 

What would you like to happen?  How will get there? 

What’s so doable it’s laughable…? 10 minutes a day, in the morning, at lunch or in the evening?  Where will you create space for consistent reflection?

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What is the pace of your life these days?  

That is the question I posed last week during a group coaching session. We were about to discuss “The Path to Future Success” — what is the pace of your life?

Here are the some of the responses those leaders gave:

• Speed of light
• Rough
• Busy
• Laid back due to uncertainty/change
• Adapting to circumstances
• Crazy
• Extremely fast, no down time
• Comfortable
• Usually fast, slowing it forcibly
• Fast and Furious

Where do you identify?

What happens when you are overly occupied with activity? What’s the impact of being so committed to something that you are unable to undertake another activity of a greater value?

When does your schedule seem ridiculous…to the point that it’s not practical or showing good sense, “it’s crazy”?  What is that costing you?

What is the affect when you are doing nearly everything in “fast” mode?

What’s your world like?

Did you see the Peter Bregman’s recent Harvard Business Review blog, “Why I Returned My iPad”?  I appreciate his candor; what do you think?

A little more than a week after buying the iPad, I returned it to Apple. The problem wasn’t the iPad exactly, though it has some flaws. The problem was me.

I like technology, but I’m not an early adopter. I waited for the second-generation iPod, the second-generation iPhone, and the second-generation MacBook Air.

But the iPad was different. So sleek. So cool. So transformational. And, I figured, since it’s so similar to the iPhone, most of the kinks would already be worked out.

So at 4 PM on the day the 3G iPad was released, for the first time in my life, I waited in line for two hours to make a purchase.

I set up my iPad in the store because I wanted to make sure I could start using it the very moment I bought it. And use it I did. I carried it with me everywhere; it’s so small and thin and light, why not bring it along?

I did my email on it, of course. But I also wrote articles using Pages. I watched episodes of Weeds on Netflix. I checked the news, the weather, and the traffic. And, of course, I proudly showed it to, well, anyone who indicated the least bit of interest.

It didn’t take long for me to encounter the dark side of this revolutionary device: it’s too good.

It’s too easy. Too accessible. Both too fast and too long-lasting. Certainly there are some kinks, but nothing monumental. For the most part, it does everything I could want. Which, as it turns out, is a problem.

Sure I might want to watch an episode of Weeds before going to sleep. But should I? It really is hard to stop after just one episode. And two hours later, I’m entertained and tired, but am I really better off? Or would it have been better to get seven hours of sleep instead of five?

The brilliance of the iPad is that it’s the anytime-anywhere computer. On the subway. In the hall, waiting for the elevator. In a car on the way to the airport. Any free moment becomes a potential iPad moment.  (emphasis added)

The iPhone can do roughly the same thing, but not exactly. Who wants to watch a movie in bed on an iPhone?

So why is this a problem? It sounds like I was super-productive. Every extra minute, I was either producing or consuming.

Every extra minute, I was either producing or consuming. Sound familiar?

How is this pace affecting your life?

That’s the question I ask my coaching group next; here are their responses?

• Impacts my outlook on life
• My health
• Lacking a sense of direction
• Miss-focused, not concentrating on what is important
• Feeling short-changed
• Feeling out of control
• Exhausted
• Questioning: Where am I?  Who am I?
• Loss of contentment
• Drinking more Red Bull
• Loss of quality
• Out of balance
• Hurting my performance
• Impacting my life
• Hard on relationships

Now, how is the pace of life impacting you?

Life is accelerated, everything seems to happen faster, develop faster, change faster.

The point of the coaching session was to establish how to accelerate personal growth.

Here’s the principle to consider…

The way to accelerate personal growth is to slow life down.

How will you slow down your life today? 

What’s one thing that is so doable it’s laughable? What can you do that will help slow life down?

Tell us what you think.

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How are you supporting your personal development journey?  

A few years ago, I was selected for the Executive Leadership Program of Atlanta-based Cox Enterprises.  Ron Young was my executive coach and I still appreciate that season of accelerated personal development.

Part of the program involved Outward Bound; this executive leadership expedition took our group of 10 to North Carolina and Pisgah National Forest, Linville Gorge. 

The four-day wilderness adventure presented most of the members in our group an opportunity to do things we had never done before.  In addition to back-packing, I enjoyed my first rappelling and rock climbing experiences…yes, that’s me with the red helment on starting my descent.

During the course of our expedition we received on-the-spot leadership lessons while planning and executing a real mountaineering expedition. Everything from inclement weather to group dynamics impacted and directed the challenges we faced.

We shared responsibility for the leadership and communication dynamics of our team, while the guides served as safety officers and mentors.  The expedition was a significant source of learning and discovery. 

The experience impacted my life and leadership. I returned to home with my “Lessons from the Forest”.  I won’t go into detail now, but here they are:

1. The Foundation of Trust
2. The Necessity of Risk
3. The Power of Focus
4. The Strength of Teamwork
5. The Simplicity of Life

The Next Level Journey is about growth and “the opportunity to do things” you’ve never done before.  The preparation, the challenge, the experience, the victory are all part of my story now.

What does it take for you to achieve your next level in life?

Mountain climbers don’t climb alone.  Everyone needs help and encouragement, in a word: support.  The greater your challenge is the greater the need for support.

In mountaineering this is about securing the climber’s rope.  To belay the climber, his rope is fastened or controlled by wrapping it around a metal device or another person.  This provides support for the climber to take greater risk in his climb or descent. 

Trust is critical to the relationship. Together the teamwork allows the climber to focus on his climb knowing he is supported.

Here I start my climb while on belay 

Who is your belay? 

One of my coaching exercises focuses on my client’s “Support System”.     

We explore three levels of support…how would you answer?

1. What do you do for you, that you can do by yourself to support your well being?
2. Who is in your inner circle…they understand you, can ask the tougher questions, while believing in you?
3. What else is in your world that charges your batteries and supports your determination?

There is a lot of life going on these days.  So whether you think of this in terms of your next level at work, in your career, on that big project, or in everyday life support is critical to your success.

Remember, mountain climbers don’t climb alone.

What do you think?

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Before you go, how are you supporting your personal development journey?  

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How well are you connecting with life?

Room 224 of St. Francis Hospital is right across from the nurse’s station.  The door was open so I went in; however, I did not recognize the patient.

No one was in the room; the patient’s name was not posted on the white board with the other erasable bits of information.  So, I stepped across the hall to check with the nurse to be sure I had the right room.  I did; it was Jack*. 

When I spoke to Jack he did not give much of a response other than to slowly turn his head to look in my direction; does he see me?  I wasn’t sure.

Shortly, his nurse stepped in; Teresa was intentional in a way you expect someone to be who is confident and engaged.  She went to the other side of the bed speaking to me, then to Jack.  Jack responded to the nurse.  She spoke up; I must have been too soft spoken. 

After a difficult surgery, Jack was doing some better that day.

As Teresa left she said, “I think of him as a Gentle Giant; was he?”

It is apparent Jack is a tall man; he filled the bed from one end to the other.  I mumbled something to indicate my agreement.

“Yes, I just picture him as a Gentle Giant,” she repeated as she slipped out of the room.

Now I am left with silent Jack and my thoughts standing by his bedside. 

What was Jack like when he was a boy…a young man?  What was his line of work?  Who is this man that now lies there sedated with morphine to manage the pain?  What is his legacy?  Will he ever walk again?  How is his wife and family doing? 

My steps were slow walking down the hall, temporarily lost in my thoughts.

Life happens quickly.

When was the last time you noticed life happens quickly? What caused you realize this truth?

Time is a limited resource.  There is a mysterious limit on how much time you are granted to live your life on this planet. 

What happens if you fail to recognize time as a limited resource?

How do you monitor your use and investment of this limited resource Read the rest of this entry »

How does taking responsibility lead to success? 

In the current Harvard Business Review interview Howard Schultz of Starbucks fame spoke of his return as CEO.  The article “We Had to Own the Mistakes” by Adi Ignatius begins:

By the time Howard Schultz stepped down as chief executive of Starbucks, in 2000, the coffee chain was one of the world’s most recognizable brands—and on a steady trajectory of growth. Eight years later Starbucks was suffering from a rough economy and its own strategic missteps, and Schultz felt compelled to return to the CEO seat. His previous tenure had seen promising growth, but now he faced a challenging mission: to lead a turnaround of the company he had built. 

HBR: We thought we knew the Howard Schultz story. You had a vision, built a successful company, and moved on. But then Starbucks ran into trouble, and two years ago you had to return as CEO. How hard has it been to get things right?

Schultz: The past two years have been transformational for the company and, candidly, for me personally. When I returned, in January 2008, things were actually worse than I’d thought. The decisions we had to make were very difficult, but first there had to be a time when we stood up in front of the entire company as leaders and made almost a confession—that the leadership had failed the 180,000 Starbucks people and their families. And even though I wasn’t the CEO, I had been around as chairman; I should have known more. I am responsible. We had to admit to ourselves and to the people of this company that we owned the mistakes that were made. Once we did, it was a powerful turning point. It’s like when you have a secret and get it out: The burden is off your shoulders.  [Emphasis added]

When a person acts responsibly they assume accountability for where they are along the journey of life.  Personal authority is accepted regarding one’s life which leads to improved decision-making.  A sense of ownership is required.

How do you know if you are not taking full responsibility? 

Listen to your words.

When you hear yourself blaming, complaining, excuse-making, or taking on a victim-view this indicates you are avoiding responsibility.  Think of these as indicators or a “yellow light” urging you to slow down and STOP.

• Stop and Breathe (Yes, take that deep, cleansing breath now)
• Think about what you are thinking:
  • Who am I blaming for this situation?
  • Why am I complaining…really?
  • How am I making excuses for what’s going on in my life right now?
  • What affect is this feeling of helplessness having on me?  Why do I think I’m a victim in this situation?
• Open yourself to other viewpoints using questions
• Probe for truth

Instead of blaming, complaining, excuse-making, or assuming a victim mentality when you stop, own it,  and look for truth in the story you will gain freedom to choose your future. 

If you take responsibility for your past then you can take charge of your future.  The alternative is to leave it in the hands of your past.  Much like forgiveness, taking responsibility frees you to move forward.  Taking responsibility for your life releases hope for tomorrow.

In the case of Starbuck’s CEO this is a loyalty building strategy for all their customers: the internal (employees) and external (consumers) customers.  

Taking the story at face value, it is refreshing to hear Howard Schultz living this principle.  Listen to him testify to the effectiveness: “…it was a powerful turning point.”

What a payoff for accepting responsibility!

Where do you want to accept responsibility?